October is ADHD Awareness Month! This month we would like to focus on the impact ADHD can have in relationships.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) can impact communication, emotional regulation, and organizational skills, making relationships more complex than they already are! When a partner has ADHD, it’s crucial to recognize how their symptoms may influence their behaviors, emotions, and interpersonal communication. Common challenges may include forgetfulness, difficulty focusing, impulsivity, and hyperactivity, all of which can cause misunderstandings or frustration in a relationship. In women, the hyperactivity is often internalized and simply feels like anxiety or an inability to “shut down” our mind.
To be a supportive partner, it’s important to approach ADHD with empathy and patience. Educating yourself can help you understand your partner’s perspective and avoid interpreting their actions as careless or unthoughtful. Open, non-judgmental communication is key; regularly discussing any issues that arise can prevent resentment from building up. Establishing routines, setting reminders, and using organizational tools can help manage day-to-day tasks more effectively. A chore chart might not sound like a fun couple’s activity, but it can actually bring you closer when approached with humor and can help minimize arguments over the management of the home. (Often the main source of tension in relationships where one partner has ADHD and the other doesn’t.)
Partners can also practice emotional support by validating each other’s feelings and celebrating progress, no matter how small. It’s helpful to avoid power struggles by working together as a team rather than taking a critical or controlling stance. Encouraging your partner to seek professional support, whether through therapy, coaching, or medication, can also be an empowering step.
With compassion and the right tools, partners can navigate the challenges of ADHD and create a supportive, healthy, and fulfilling relationship. If therapy might offer support to you, your partner, or both, please let us know! We would love to work with you.